Weddings: not as important as marriages

Weddings: not as important as marriages

If you spend a few moments in a  glossy wedding magazine, or reading some stupid article about weddings from the mainstream media within the first few moments you’re often provided the timely reminder that a wedding is either:

  1. the most important day of your life,
  2. the best day of your life, or
  3. the most expensive day of your life

It’s more than likely that your wedding is one or all of those statuses. I’ve got a crazy proposal however.

Maybe your wedding isn’t the most important day, maybe the day you’re currently in, the now is the most important day. There’s no such thing as future love, or past love. Love, and loving someone can’t exist outside of the present, it’s an activity that can only occur in the now. Maybe your marriage is more important than your wedding.

Maybe your wedding isn’t the best day, but your best is yet to come. Maybe your marriage is one that didn’t peak on day zero, but your marriage is a union that has the strength and courage to proclaim that “our best is still ahead of us”.

Maybe your wedding isn’t the most expensive day, but maybe you realise that where your money is where your heart is. It’s possible to know where someone’s intentions lie not by asking them, or stalking them, but by looking at their credit card statement. And perhaps your marriage celebration is the most money you’ve spent yet, but you’re planning on spending much much more on having an amazing, world-changing marriage.


The feature image for this blog post is by Heart and Colour with The Elopement Collective at Spicers Peak Lodge – it’s Meisha and Josh becoming a husband and wife with me as their celebrant!