How to Memorise & Remember Your Wedding Vows

You don’t have to memorise your vows, so don’t.

Don’t memorise your vows 🙂

No more!

Related notes on the subject:

• No one is expecting you to memorise your vows.
• Less than 1% of people married in Australia last year memorised their own vows.
• We have the technology (paper/print/tablets/phones) to read vows at your wedding.
• Your celebrant can have the vows ready and either pass them to you or ask you to repeat after them—whatever makes you feel most comfortable.
• You’re allowed to “wing it” with most of your vows. There are just a few bits that need to be exact: the legal parts that I'll ask you to repeat after me.
• Seriously, you don’t have to memorise your vows, and unless you have superpowers, don’t do it.
• However, if you do have superpowers, it would be really cool to meet up—please email me.
• I've written a guide on how to write your own vows that rock.

Why Not Memorising Can Help With Nerves

Not having to memorise your vows can take a huge weight off your shoulders. It’s one less thing to worry about, which means you can be more present during the ceremony rather than stressing about whether you’ll forget your lines. Weddings can be nerve-wracking as it is, so knowing you can simply read your vows or repeat them after your celebrant helps keep those nerves at bay. It allows you to focus on the moment and the emotion, rather than worrying about perfect recall.

💍 Josh Withers is an Australian wedding celebrant based in Hobart who travels the world every week creating meaningful, fun, and honest marriage ceremonies for adventurous couples just like you.

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